Tuesday, May 18, 2010

Bummed.

Sorry I've been away from the blog a little more than usual in the past week or so. I'm just feeling bummed and haven't felt like posting. Just after mothers day, my mother's home was burglarized. The worthless humans that did it stole things that can be replaced, like electronics and her sewing machine, but also took irreplaceable family heirlooms, namely jewelry that had belonged to my grandmothers. What evil possesses people into thinking that have the right to just take things that don't belong to them?

Me and my daddy :: circa 1973

Tomorrow will be the third anniversary of my father's premature passing. I can't believe he's been gone so long.

Getting ready for my wedding :: 1993

I wish you were here to see all the things we are doing, Daddy. I wish you were here to see Shea; you wouldn't believe how big she's grown! I wish you had been here to celebrate your 60th birthday. I know you were looking forward to a big party. I can't wait to see you again someday. I miss you.

Sorry for the downer post, but frankly, it's my blog and I'll cry if I want to. Sometimes it helps to just get things off your chest, and I can't think of putting things any further out there than in a forum like this. I'll be back tomorrow with something happy to say. I promise.

37 comments:

Kim said...

{{{hugs}}} to you. I lost my dad prematurely 3 years ago this month as well. I know I have a big cheerleader up in heaven now, but it doesn't ease the pain. Sorry to hear about your mother's burglary too! How awful. {{hugs}}

Jane said...

Sorry about the burglary and so very sorry about your Dad. Twenty years later, and I still miss mine. What a great picture of him holding you! You look like him, don't you?

Liz B. said...

My mother's home was broken into last year, and it was entirely terrifying. They took very little, a camera and some cash, but they busted the front door in, knocked the deadbolt right through the frame. They also went through her jewelry and took the one gold item: her nursing pin that she received when she graduated college in 1972. The thieves were apprehended and she is getting a few dollars a month restitution, but none of her belongings back. For Christmas, her three siblings worked magic, contacting her college and getting their help to order a new pin that was identical to the original. She was so surprised and touched by the gift. Is there anything you can find for your mother that, if not replacing the original item, would fill its place in her heart with your love? (that sounds cheesy, but I think it's true.)
I think it's wonderful that you are able to post with honesty; it makes your blog a reflection of real life and reminds me that I don't read your blog to see some ideal that I can't live up to, but to see a real person with whom I have things in common, good and bad. I wish you the best.

Holly said...

Oh Melanie, I'm so sorry for what you and your family have had to go through! Being burglarized is such a violating feeling. I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your Father, no words can repair that void. *Hugs from the east coast!*

Lynne said...

You're right. It is your blog and you can cry if you want to. You poor thing. What a miserable horrible time you've had.

Boyknitter said...

I know how awful it is to be burgled. All the usual words spring to mind to describe the sense of violation that it leaves you with, but until you experience it yourself you really can't comprehend how it shakes you to the core. Keep your chin up - i'm sure your Dad wouldn't want to see you getting down? Mind you, as you say, it's your blog so let it all out! M x

Katy said...

you're right - it IS your blog and you can cry if you want to. I'm so sorry your mother's house was burgled, it makes my blood boil.

What awesome red hair your dad had - and a beard to match! Gorgeous! There's something about a red haired man that always makes me a little weak at the knees (maybe because my little man is a 'carrot top' too). I'm sure he's watching from a better place and counting the days til he sees you again.

Keep strong. x

Lynz said...

Oh, Melanie. Sometimes getting it all down and out there helps, yes? I hope you're taking care today and over the next few. We all care! xox

The One and Only said...

First LOVE LOVE LOVE to you. My parents house got robbed years ago too, supposedly by people we know. They stole my mom's jewelry that was handmade by her uncle, who was a jeweler so it was one of a kind stuff....Sorry about the passing of Dad too early in life...My boyfriend's grandma passed away a month and a half before I gave pregnant to her grandson's first child. That was so hard!! Her and my bf were really close and she was so excited!! But I know she is looking down on us and your Dad is looking down on you, beaming with JOY!!! Hang in there love!! and definitely cry if you want to...it's very cathartic (sp?)

Mitzi said...

I'm sorry you are hurting.

Leslie said...

The burglary criminals are desperate desperate people doing desperate things. I am so sorry your mother's home was the target of their acts. I am glad she was not home to be in harms way.

I get the feeling you are a very compassionate person -I have to say out of the hundreds of emails and comments I got after my dad's premature passing -yours stood out. You knew exactly how I (and my family) were feeling. My sister, brother and I talked about your comment and the comfort it gave us knowing that someone else knew how unfair and crappy it all feels. We did not want to hear positive stuff during that time. I hope I can have your sense of knowing what to say to help others in the future.

I am sorry you have hit a rough patch. I seem to get them hourly :) The pictures of you and your Dad are beautiful. I hope your day feels better soon.
xoleslie

angela said...

oh my - {big hug} Sometimes a good cry is what we need. Sorry.

That Girl said...

What rotten people to burglarize your mom's home! We were burglarized when I was a kid and I can still remember the unsettling feelings; I'm so sorry you and your mom are having to go through this.

I think it's good for you to write here about your feelings. Get them out, let people validate them... that's so much better than stuffing your feelings. Hang in there!

Jennifer :)

Terriaw said...

I hate having days like this, so my heart is with you! I give you a lot of credit for expressing your bummed mood and sorrows to us. Just remember, the sun will shine tomorrow and we fellow bloggers are thinking of you.

Caro said...

All the best during this sad time for you.

machen und tun said...

i am feeling with you!!
claudia

Mary Carole said...

Oh Melanie, as I read this note tears are running down my face. I am so sorry for this weeks events. Sending you big hugs and hoping that this week is a MUCH better week for you.

~ MC

Dorrie said...

Oh, sweetie! I'm so sorry about your mom's home and how scary you both must feel~I'm thankful she wasn't home when the no-gooders broke in. I'm right there with you with daddy~my daddy died only knowing our oldest 2, the younger 3 only have stories and pictures. It's been 16 years and I still cry~daddy's are so special. Hugs, my bloggy friend. . .

NorahS said...

Wow. That really IS a bummer! Sorry about your dad, too. Take care!

Cheryl Arkison said...

You have every right to be bummed. Hang in there.

Islay said...

That sucks. Thinking of you and hope you get your groove back soon.

Angie said...

So sorry you've got this to deal with compounded with the anniversary of your Dad's death. I am a big fan of your work and a fan of your blog (found it while trying to figure out the Anna Marie Horner pincushion)....sending happy thoughts and wishes your way...things will get better.

kathy said...

My parents have had their home robbed twice when I was a teenager. They took my all of my childhood handbags including the ones my grandmother lovingly hand patchwork pieced and quilted. They also stole my charm bracelet that my grandmother added to every year at christmas. My very first birthstone ring that I purchased from money from my very 1st job.....what can you say? They placed everything they took into my father's pillowcase from his bed....what value would those items have? Next to nothing....I think back fondly of the memories that those items evoked...however, it has a lesson that only later in life have I understood. Don't put an emotional investment into things. And remember that no one, not no one can take away the memories.....Sorry to hear about your mother's violation, because that's what it is - a violation of your very life....

Megan said...

So sorry to hear about everything you and your family are going through. Sending light and peace your way. And this is part of what all this blogging is good for - to put out there what we're going through and receive support back form people who are in some way connected to us - even if just because we share a love of needlework and pretty fabric!

corinnea said...

Say what you need to say....

So sorry about your mom's space being violated.

My dad got to touch all three of my kids but not my sisters. It was 23 years ago, he was only 47 and all of our kids are grown now but we still feel the loss at different times.

izzy inspired said...

sorry for all the saddness...just give into it and let the tears roll! I miss my mom every second of every day and sometimes just letting myself cry and feel the loss is the only way I can get through it!

AnnieO said...

That's the eternal question, isn't it--"What's WRONG with some people?"

No need for happy posts when you are not happy. Sad is normal too! Especially when it comes to people you love. Sorry about your dad, that's so hard.

Ingrid said...

Hi Melanie, I´m sorry about the burglary and I can understand that all the very personal things that were stolen remind you to the time you could spend with your complete family.
What a lovely picture with your dad! I lost my dad when I was 24 and although it´s about twenty years ago now, I miss him so much. I often talk to him in my thoughts.

...and you´re right: it´s your blog, so let your emotions be free!

( I haven´t forgotten to send you a photo of my technique to make my hexagons. But I´m very busy these days and after pentecost we´re going on holiday for two weeks. But photos will follow, I promise!)

All best wishes from Germany

"viele liebe Grüße" Ingrid

23rdspiral said...

you've no need to apologise for anything. so many of us understand. i was burgled a few years ago and it's so very unsettling and haunting. i lost my 97yr old grandma at christmas. we were very close and i miss her terribly. she may have had many years, but it just meant i got to know her properly! take care of yourself. and no more apologising, ok?!

Siobhan said...

Awww, big hugs. I want to bawl and cry at your post. I am so sorry that happened to your mom--people are jerks. I am sure it made her feel very vulnerable, too. It's hard to see your loved ones hurting.

I lost my dad suddenly at age 54, twenty years ago. There hasn't been an hour in any day that has passed since that I haven't missed him. He would have been a wonderful grandfather; I think I feel most cheated because of that. I know he's their guardian angel and I am thankful for that but oh gosh, just for five more minutes with him--what I wouldn't give.

Big big hugs.

madebymegs said...

Just sending you warm thoughts through this bout of sadness. Your mother may have lost some valuables, but at least she didn't get hurt in the act of this disgusting event. As for your father, so sorry for the loss, but I am sure he is somewhere and is able to see how much you still and always will love him.

Sew Create It - Jane said...

(((hugs))) I lost my Dad too young too and it's watching my kids grow up without their grandfather that makes me sad.

Sorry to hear about your mom...I hope they catch those guys and that they get what's coming to them.

andie said...

You have every right to feel bummed. Man, that is really awful. Your dad looks like an orchestra conductor in the pic of getting ready for the wedding. Don't know why, he just does to me. Thought you were gonna say he was. Wishing you peace and strength.

PiecefulChaos said...

I lost both my parents when they were 58 (not the same year) so I can relate. That stinks about the burglary too - unfortunately I can relate to that too.

Jackie said...

Oh Melanie, I am so sorry to hear about the burglary. That is the worst feeling. The exact thing happened to my mother in law and they also took things that could not be replaced too. It makes me sad just to think about it. All will be okay in time, but those individuals do not realize the heartbreak they caused. Just know that there are people out here that can empathize with you. You are not alone. You know your dad is watching over you and your mom!

Miss Sews-it-all said...

So sorry to hear about the burglary - and the priceless pieces of history that were lost. That is very sad news.

I am also so, so sorry to hear about your father. I lost my father a few years before I was married and we had our daughter, and I wish he could have been here for all of it. Big hugs for you!

Sarah said...

Hey Melanie, Sorry to hear you are not feeling so good... Hope you are feeling better soon!